That's often because what's underneath isn't a thinking problem. It's something you learned to do a long time ago, for reasons that made sense then, and no one's given it a reason to stop since.

I work slowly and I work with what's actually there — including the parts of you that don't want to be in therapy at all.

People come to me for:

• anxiety that won't switch off, even when nothing's wrong

• trauma that's still shaping choices years later

• feeling flat, tired, and going through the motions

• distance in a relationship that used to feel easy